After the Psychopathic Partner, Now What?

Alexis Azria
6 min readNov 21, 2023

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If you’ve been in a relationship with a ruthless manipulator, you know the devastation is far-reaching. They reduce life to a game of winning, a compulsion to obliterate anyone or anything standing in their way. Understand that regardless of what they say, they have no emotional attachment to anyone. They lack cognitive empathy, and the researchers at the National Institute of Mental Health found a link between sociopathic deficits in recognizing emotions and amygdala dysfunction. Sadly, they cannot change, and they will repeat their heartless subterfuges with everyone in their life, including their children.

No matter where you are in your path fighting a toxic person, whether a spouse, parent, boss, or co-worker, know that millions of us are on this path with you. And you can heal and protect yourself from other character-disordered people.

Society often associates psychopathy with extreme cases, envisioning individuals like Charles Manson with a carved swastika on his forehead. This assumption leads people to believe they can naturally identify psychopaths, enabling them to avoid the dangers of relationships with them. However, the average person struggles to name even the top 5 characteristics of a toxic personality. Even trained therapists encounter difficulties in identifying these traits. Consequently, the challenge lies not only in recognizing psychopathic tendencies but also in navigating the aftermath and healing from the trauma they leave behind.

Numerous fiction and non-fiction writers, including James Fallon, M.E. Thomas, Jen Waite, O.N. Ward, and Patricia Highsmith, have delved into the experiences of psychopaths and sociopaths, as well as the challenges of being in a relationship with one.

They describe the psychopath’s heightened need for stimulation, hypnotic charm, lack of empathy, inclination for risky behavior, impulsive decision-making, unwavering confidence, insatiable sex drive, captivating charm, fearlessness, and adept use of diversions and distractions to conceal their puppet-master role in the lives of those around them.

However, I have found that law enforcement and lawyers can accurately predict their behavior and next steps with uncanny ability.

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Alexis Azria

Writer and curious creator. Passionate about work, life & social issues. Visit alexisazria.com